We all know that growing into adulthood is a very critical moment for both genders.
At this stage many teenagers become confused. And they are always willing to recognize those who really care for them as early as they can.
If you carefully observe how you relate with them before 10 - 14 years will have a reflection on what they will tell you about themselves when they are 15 and above.
Now they become more sensitive about their feelings. And they find it safe to have parents who are ready to listen to them and recognize their needs.
Although, most mums tend to do more with their female teenagers at this period. While most male teenagers are believed to find their way out. This is very sensitive for parents who care. Every child needs your attention. They need your validation.
My conversation with some teenagers a few weeks back revealed that some parents have neglected a lot in their responsibilities as regard parenting. Which keep exposing these children to emotional crises.
Your child will appreciate your efforts for all you're providing. But yet if you are that person who doesn't show more concern about their feelings, they might not have that strength to tell you more than what you think you know.
DON'T SHOT THEM DOWN WHEN THEY TEND TO DISCUSS ANY SENSITIVE THING WITH YOU. EVEN IF DOESN'T MAKE SENSE TO YOU AT THAT MOMENT. IT DOES TO THEM.
And if they find out that you don't have that time or interest in their feelings and expression. They will start to maintain a mute strategy on things that matters. They will find alternatives as coping mechanisms. THEY WON'T TELL YOU ANYMORE.
So, next time, when they have serious things to discuss with you. They will leave you out and find friends to discuss with or resolve it themselves.
If you want them to be emotionally secured with you.
▶Spend quality time with them.
▶Validate their feelings when they express them.
▶Listen actively while they speak
▶Make them feel that you have confidence in them.
▶Create a strong bond between you and your children
▶Be their parents. Not necessarily their friends or best friends. They have those ones already.
▶Understand that they can't fix it all. They are in their grooming process for adulthood.
▶Give them the chance to try and fail. But be there help when the need aria rises
Parenting is challenging. May we find it easy as we strive for the best.
©Afeez Olalekan Saka
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